We cannot imagine life without emotions. Good or bad, inspiring or depressing – they are part of us, although we still do not know much about them. We have selected 50 quotes from new books and bestsellers. Let them help paint your emotional background with bright colors or just learn something new.
1. For better or worse, intelligence can be useless if emotions take over.
– from the book “Emotional Intelligence”.
2. Although emotions have always served us as wise advisers, the new realities offered by the current civilization have formed with such speed that evolution, with its sedate pace, clearly cannot keep up with them.
– from the book “Emotional Intelligence”.
3. The root of the word “emotion” is the Latin verb moveo , meaning “to move, set in motion”, with the prefix e- (“e-“), giving an additional meaning of outward direction: “move away, remove.” This means that each of the emotions awakens the desire to act. The fact that emotions lead to actions is most easily seen by observing animals or children.
– from the book “Emotional Intelligence”.
4. Feelings are necessary for thinking, and thinking is necessary for feelings. But if passions rage, the balance is disturbed. So the emotional mind took over and overwhelmed the rational mind.
– from the book “Emotional Intelligence”.
5. Our emotions have a mind that holds its own views quite independently of our ratio .
– from the book “Emotional Intelligence”.
6. The main “switch” of painful emotions is the left prefrontal lobe. The right prefrontal lobes house negative feelings like fear and aggression, while the left lobes control these raw emotions, probably by depressing the right lobe.
– from the book “Emotional Intelligence”.
7. Empathy, another ability based on emotional self-awareness , is the main “human gift.” People really capture the feelings behind words.
– from the book “Emotional Intelligence”.
8. If you haven’t changed for a while, you get a false sense that everything is stable and you are in control. But control can only be in one area: yourself, your emotions, confidence and development.
– From the book “Never Ever “.
9. Life is time. It’s what you do, how you feel about it, who you spend your hours and days with, what interesting things you do. And you can start doing it now. Without delay.
– From the book “Never Ever “.
10. If the movement has not started, the person freezes in the “emotional trampling” mode and spends his battery on throwing. And in this mode, she quickly “sits down”
– From the book “Never Ever “.
11. Learn not to get carried away, not to freak out and not to fall into an emotional collapse, even in uncertainty or under the pressure of circumstances. “No money, no work, what about tomorrow? Ah-ah-ah!”
– From the book “Never Ever “.
12. When considering whether to meet friends in the evening and have fun from the heart or stay at home and sort through the accumulated mail, choose the first one! Positive emotions from the meeting will make you much more creative and productive in the following days.
– From the book Closer to the Body.
13. Happiness arises through the gradual “cultivation” of positive emotions. Similarly, negative experiences create a downward emotional spiral. For example, to a frustrated person, the working day seems endless, and traffic seems terrible.
– From the book Closer to the Body.
14. Each positive emotion is layered on top of the previous ones, enhancing the feeling of happiness. Positive thoughts, emotions, and decisions feed off each other. With this mindset, eating, exercising, sleeping, resting, and other activities will add strength rather than drain it.
– From the book Closer to the Body.
15. Listening to your body and each time making a choice in its favor, you get a powerful emotional charge.
– From the book Closer to the Body.
16. Sometimes the excessive absorption of a particular food is caused not by physical, but by emotional hunger. Your brain remembers, “When I’m sad, I eat chocolate with peanut butter.” The trick is to separate the food from the satisfaction of a certain emotion.
– From the book Closer to the Body.
17. Dreams are also closely related to our emotional state. When we experience negativity in a dream, we often wake up with a more positive attitude and clearer thoughts. Have you ever wondered where the expression “sleep with a problem” comes from?
– From the book Closer to the Body.
18. A sleep-deprived person is like a living wire, through which negative emotions pass instead of a current. The part of the brain responsible for anger becomes hyperactive.
– From the book Closer to the Body.
19. By mastering the senses, you will form healthy habits. Once you understand that each emotion does not arise from scratch, it will become easier for you to control your reactions and mood.
– From the book Closer to the Body.
20. Cheerful, sad, melancholy, gloomy, inspired, joyful… Man is a real whirlwind of emotions. Even when you feel bad, you are not helpless. No one can take away your right to choose, and only you decide how to relate to the situation.
– From the book Closer to the Body.
21. The time-honored history of emotions goes something like this: Everyone has emotions built in from birth. This is a separate easily recognizable phenomenon within us. When something happens in the world—a gunshot or a flirtatious look—our emotions spring up quickly and automatically, like someone flipping a switch. We express emotions on our faces with a smile, a frown, or characteristic expressions that other people can easily recognize. Our voices express emotions through laughter and shouting. Our body gives out our sensations in every gesture and posture.
— from the book How Emotions Are Born.
22. Your emotions are not built in, but made up of basic parts. They are not universal, but different for different cultures. They don’t start themselves; you create them. They arise as a combination of the physical properties of your body and a plastic brain that makes connections with the environment in which it develops and the culture and upbringing that provides such an environment.
— from the book How Emotions Are Born.
23. The law considers that emotional harm is less serious than physical harm and less deserving of punishment. Think how ironic this sounds. The law protects the integrity of your anatomical body, but not the integrity of your psyche, even though the body is just a container for the organ that makes you who you are – your brain.
— from the book How Emotions Are Born.
24. Your genes can make you sensitive to the environment and every little problem. And if you are a woman of reproductive age, the connectivity in your interoceptive network changes every month, making you more vulnerable at certain points in the cycle.
— from the book How Emotions Are Born.
25. Pain is an experience that results not only from physical injury, but also when your brain predicts that injury is imminent. Let’s say you’re in the doctor’s office getting a tetanus shot. Your brain constructs a case of “pain” because you already have previous experience with injections. You may feel pain even before the needle touches your arm.
— from the book How Emotions Are Born.
26. When you feel bad, consider that you have a virus, and do not think that your discomfort means something personal. Your sensations may be just noise. Perhaps you just need to sleep.
— from the book How Emotions Are Born.
27. When you teach your children about emotions, try to go beyond the essentialist stereotypes: smile when happy, frown when angry, and so on. Help them understand the diversity of the real world—that, depending on the context, a smile can mean happy, embarrassed, angry, or even sad.
— from the book How Emotions Are Born.
28. And now I am in favor of using anger as one of the additional incentives on the way to your goal. This is a beautiful emotion. And, as it turned out, very creative, if directed in the right direction. The emotion should not be “This bastard will now burst into tears that he has lost such a beauty as me. Let him suffer for the rest of his life! ”, But rather like this:“ I will wipe my nose with this everyone who does not believe in me!
– from the book “100 ways to change your life. Part 2”.
29. Often being overweight is a subconscious desire to hide, run away and shut yourself off from the world. This fear arises from dissatisfaction with life in general or from the fact that a person lacks emotions.
– from the book “100 ways to change your life. Part 2”.
30. Our emotions are like food in the refrigerator. If they are not survived (“not eaten”) in time, then they begin to rot and poison our lives.
– from the book “100 ways to change your life. Part 1”.
31. Almost all pregnant women are characterized by increased emotionality. Often this is one of the first signs of pregnancy, which is very puzzling if a woman does not yet know that she is pregnant.
– from the book “I will be a mother.”
32. Young mothers often say that immediately after giving birth they feel relieved, very tired and want to drink a cup of tea, and the emotional wave covers later. Young fathers, on the other hand, are surprised at how emotionally they experience the birth of a baby, even if they are usually not prone to sentimentality.
– from the book “I will be a mother.”
33. Very often a tired baby, who had too many emotions and impressions, cannot fall asleep. This is one of the reasons why children who do not get enough sleep during the day do not sleep well at night.
– from the book “I will be a mother.”
34. A growing body of scientific research shows that emotional inflexibility—being stuck on thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that do not benefit us—leads to a range of psychological problems, including depression and anxiety.
– from the book “Emotional Flexibility”.
35. Negative experiences are normal. Such is human nature. And an overemphasis on positive thinking is just another radical way our culture attempts to combat normal fluctuations in emotions, just as society sometimes rushes to cure childhood hyperactivity or women’s mood swings with pills.
– from the book “Emotional Flexibility”.
36. First, everything is decided by your emotions. Secondly, repressed emotions inevitably take their toll, and they find an outlet in a completely different place than you expect.
– from the book “Emotional Flexibility”.
37. When we are too joyful and cheerful, we often do not pay attention to serious threats and risks. It would not be a big exaggeration to say that excessive joy can be life-threatening: in this state, you more easily decide on adventures and underestimate the risks of alcohol.
– from the book “Emotional Flexibility”.
38. Boldly and with interest, accept yourself as a whole – with a chapped nose and frayed ears, with “good” and “bad” emotions, missing nothing and not bypassing anything with sympathy. Accept your inner experiences, try to get used to them and explore them without trying to get rid of them as soon as possible.
– from the book “Emotional Flexibility”.
39. Do not try to get rid of fear. Try to go to what is valuable to you, right through your fears, lighting the way with your values. Being brave does not mean not being afraid of anything, being brave is moving forward, no matter how scary it is.
– from the book “Emotional Flexibility”.
40. There is a huge difference between stress and anger, stress and disappointment, stress and anxiety. If we cannot unequivocally express what we feel, others are unlikely to be able to understand us and provide the support we need.
41. Neuroscientists have proven that stress, as well as negative emotions: anger, sadness, insecurity, anxiety, put the brain into a reward-seeking mode. You end up craving what your brain thinks promises a reward, and you are convinced that this “reward” is the only source of joy.
42. Attempts to repress thoughts, emotions and desires go sideways and force you to think, feel and do what you most want to avoid.
43. Feel what is felt, but do not believe everything that is thought. When an unpleasant thought comes to mind, notice how it feels in your body. Then bring your attention to your breath and imagine the thought dissolving or leaving.
44. A diary allows us to gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and our emotions, even difficult or painful ones. The better we are aware of our feelings and thoughts, the more prepared we are for the accumulation of life experience and self-development.
45. The universal language of music awakens passions and emotions in a person. When a pleasant song is played on the radio, our mood immediately improves. The soft melody helps calm the nerves. Slow classical music causes thoughtfulness or sadness. Music can awaken our creativity and create motivation for certain actions.
46. Smiling brings positive results. But laughter is a much stronger expression of emotion. It helps to cope with feelings and fear, improves mood and appearance, and makes it easier to experience difficult situations and disappointments.
47. You know best how you feel in stressful or difficult situations. Therefore, it is very important in such cases to listen carefully to your thoughts and reactions in order to take appropriate action if necessary.
48. Morning exercise is critical to maximizing potential because it brings you to the peak of your mental, physical and emotional state, which gives you a chance to become a winner on this day.
49. By visualizing what you want to get out of life, you stir up your emotions, which, in turn, lifts your spirit and mood and simply pulls you towards the realization of these images.
50. The average person allows emotions to dictate his actions, and the actions of people who have achieved great success in life dictate their views and beliefs.
